By Lily-Ann MacDonald
As we go about our Life each day, most of us will at some point come across situations that require us to accept change – whether in our job, in our health, in our relationships with family or friends, in our finances … or in almost any other aspect of Life one could imagine.
There’s an old saying that suggests the only thing constant in Life is change … and if ever there was a time in the history of humanity when this adage was true, it’s now. In previous articles, we’ve acknowledged how today’s ever-evolving technology seems to have quickened the pace of Life – whether through inter-personal communications, or in advancements in safety, medicine, or science … change is the name of the game.
And If We Don’t Like It?
But what happens when change doesn’t really improve the game itself? Or what if we just don’t want the change that confronts us? What do we do then? Well, most of the time, we don’t have a lot of choice in the matter – we’re merely along for the ride. Change visits in spite of us, although sometimes even because of us.
I’ve noticed there seems to be two basic ways to manage change. One is ‘resistance’ … the kind with white knuckles and clenched teeth. This scenario represents change as something to reluctantly face, something inevitable and possibly even somewhat painful. But this particular perspective on change can be exhausting because (let’s be honest) with this attitude, we’re not really embracing the change facing us. Instead, we may tolerate it, endure it, even suffer it or bear it … but we do not embrace it.
If You Refuse, Do You Really Lose?
The problem with this strategy is that it is ineffective at best, and at worst can engender a resentment that could even become something more onerous. Adopting a resistance approach will almost always set us up to fail, or at least make us miserable through an inner monologue that fixates on“These changes are terrible and will make it impossible for me to succeed. I will resist them at every opportunity!” Such people are metaphorically ‘dragged, kicking and screaming’ into their new circumstance. It’s so emotionally draining…(Read more.)
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