One of the biggest challenges of professional life coaches is lack of self-confidence. Self-confidence is something that ultimately can only come with experience and even then it can sometimes falter. Of course, it’s to be expected when you’re just starting out, but I have talked with many seasoned coaches who are still struggling with self-confidence.
Besides experience, there are other things you can do to gain more self-confidence and one way is to understand your nature and energy movement and then learn how to express that as well as your natural beauty in how you dress.
Recently, I came across a brilliant system for this while researching resources for my clients. It’s called Energy Profiling developed by Carol Tuttle, and it deals with aspects of your personality in relationship to the flow of nature. The system divides us into 4 types and shows how our energy flows in basically 4 different ways. The 4 types are also connected to the 4 elements of air, water, fire, and earth, as well as 4 natural elements, hydrogen, carbon, nitrogen, and oxygen.
What I gained from this program was a deeper understanding of some of my personality qualities so that I could see the positive value of them and build on that, rather than trying to hide the negative side of them.
For example, my energy profile type is the action-takers; we can organize people and get them moving. The negative side is that we can appear to be too pushy or bossy and I was always worried about coming across that way. But the positive side is that we are implementers (movers and shakers, you might say) and know how to get things done, which others (who aren’t this type) really appreciate.
So now I know that I can embrace myself as an implementer and feel more self-confident, knowing that it’s helping others. I know that’s true from the feedback I receive from the members of my association. Some of them say that they could never get people to write chapters for books and create talks for telesummits, but for me, it’s easy.
Now, as an image consultant, Carol took her Energy Profiling system one step further and created a fabulous program for discovering your beauty and fashion type and teaching you how to express that in your wardrobe. After understanding more about your personality and nature in her program, you get to see what style of clothes and colors look best on you. When you are wearing the right style, color, hair, and make-up, you look your best and feel your best. And feeling your best is a great way to boost your self-confidence.
Many women are clueless as to how to shop for clothes, as I have been most of my life. I did know what colors I should wear, but I got frustrated after picking the right colors and still not looking “right” and gave up on the color thing until I understood that it’s more than just color. It’s also style. The style includes line, angle, texture, drape, fabrication, and how you combine all of the elements. It also includes accessories such as scarves, belts, and jewelry, and the styles and the ways to wear them. I always felt like the best accessories were only designer, and of course, that wasn’t in my budget. Now I know about Gucci belt fake makes and other fake accessories, but at the time, the frustration just kept kicking in. You can wear a garment that’s the right color for you, but if it’s not the right style for you, it won’t feel right, and eventually, you’ll stop wearing it, and not really know why.
When you see someone who looks really fabulous, it’s the whole look. But it’s also energy. Knowing what to wear to create the style that best fits your personality and nature, gives you confidence which is your underlying energy. Wearing the clothes, accessories, hair-style, and make-up that looks best on you also gives you more self-confidence. If you want to rock a 90s inspired hairstyle, then do it. If you want to sport that Fake Louis Vuitton Bag you’ve had for a while, why not go for it? If using it makes you feel good, that’s all that matters. If you want to try out a new makeup look, who’s stopping you? Don’t think about what other people say, otherwise we would never do anything for ourselves. You can’t please everyone, but you can please yourself.
For example, if you like yourself more, and you feel more confident when wearing your hair a different way to how you normally do, you may want to continue doing so and start researching into different ways to keep these looks fresh for you, such as finding what’s the best hair rollers for your type of hair, as well as the style you’re trying to pull off.
But more importantly, when you have a better understanding of your nature, your movement, and your natural beauty qualities and how to express them, you gain a new level of confidence that naturally radiates out to instill confidence in you from others.
If you’d like to boost your self-confidence, discover more of yourself so you can express more of your true self. You can do that by reading one of Carol Tuttle’s books, “It’s Just My Nature,” and “Discover Your Personal Beauty Profile.”
Her website for learning about your personal beauty profile is www.dressingyourtruth.com. There you can take her fabulous course and get the expertise of a personal image consultant without spending thousands of dollars. I highly recommend it. It has changed my self-image and boosted my self-confidence and by far was one of the best business investments I’ve ever made.