A SOARing Experience

“In the midst of our lives, we must find the magic that makes our lives soar.” – Heather Dominick’s SOAR event

I had some resistance to attending my coach’s live event this month.  I guess it was a combination of not wanting to spend any more money on traveling and not wanting to spend any more money on the business until I made some more money.  Can you relate to how we make so many decisions based on money (or lack of money issues)?

In the end I knew I had to go, so I did.  Actions taken in that knowing area are always the right ones and this one proved to be true for me because attending Heather Dominick’s SOAR was a life changing experience for me.  Let me share with you how.

First of all when you get into a live event situation you are in a room with a lot of other highly motivated people who have also taken a big leap forward to come to the event.  They are filled with excitement and hope and an openness that creates a fertile environment for learning.  Then you have the leader of the event who has prepared his or her material and energy to their highest level so they can be in a position to raise all the participants’ energy and level of understanding during the event.

And consequently, I felt like my energy was raised up to a new level. It seemed appropriate that the event was called “SOAR” because my spirit felt like it was soaring during and after the event; something that I hadn’t anticipated.

Secondly, I had several break-throughs during the presentations.  For example, we were told that past memories are selective and are based on perception.  So many times our perception of an event in the past is incorrect and we then form a belief that’s based on something that didn’t even actually happen.  Then that belief influences the present, which in turn creates our future.  That’s how we get stuck in a cycle.

From this information I was able to see that my perception about some situations in my past I could have perceived incorrectly and might possibly be holding on to erroneous beliefs.  Once I saw that, I was able to loosen and release them.  To be more specific, I saw that my belief that I was a failure because several businesses I started in the past failed, was just an incorrect perception.  I was able to see that I could redefine myself by who I am now and feel like a success (finally!).

Another break-through for me was the idea that I don’t need to be perfect, or have all of my challenges solved in order to be of value to others. As I was processing that concept, I noticed the resistance in the form of disbelief. I never noticed how sneaky the ego can be to keep us stuck in pseudo reality. I even had to confirm this new idea by asking several others about it later and get assurance that they didn’t expect me to be perfect in order to run my association, in order to change this belief. This is something that many coaches confront so I will repeat it: you don’t need to be perfect in order to be of value to your clients.

A final break-through for me was the concept that we can’t be a fraud because all of our experiences combine to make us our authentic selves. That was a real relief for me because when I feel like a failure I also feel like a fraud and that means I’m not perfect, so how can I help others and be of value to them?  You see how we get into these negative cycles? Being a fraud is something that many coaches fear for the same reason.  They go into the same cycle of thinking and then they wonder why their coaching business isn’t successful.

I’m sure you can see that although all three of my break-throughs were about separate issues, they were all related when combined.  And although I do have a successful business and life, there have been moments when the challenges seem daunting.

But going to an event like this put everything into perspective for me, cleared out the cobwebs, and gave me a new level of confidence in myself, sense of value in my work, and way of handling the low points so that I stay at the new level of being. And because I took the time energy and money to attend this live event and also because of my new level of understanding, confidence, and commitment, I am able to share all of this with you.  I certainly recommend that you attend this event or some live event every year.